tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post239691565587599214..comments2023-11-05T01:17:35.722-07:00Comments on Life and more such Nonsense: Just Friends.Tys on Icehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09718530428063102986noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-63783100635673752692012-04-12T02:47:05.497-07:002012-04-12T02:47:05.497-07:00@ TYS
From your answers and response to the quest...@ TYS<br /> From your answers and response to the questions I can tell and I may be bit out, but what you are saying is that men and women can never be friends without sex ( gender attraction )getting in the way. Is this your answer if it involves you?<br />because it is in my case.<br /><br />HAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-32722757403165098042012-04-10T08:19:15.115-07:002012-04-10T08:19:15.115-07:00Tys
So we can conclude that petrol and fire can...Tys <br /><br /> So we can conclude that petrol and fire can be friends as long as they both are void of oxygen. Is this what you are saying TYS.<br />Hmmmm!<br /><br />HAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-70344578008101919862011-08-27T02:39:00.705-07:002011-08-27T02:39:00.705-07:00@rm : we have a saying that goes like a girl and a...@rm : we have a saying that goes like a girl and a boy are like petrol and fire...but i think thats a lil stupid...what iam saying is that this question is only arising due to outside influences which demand a kind of defining a relationship....iam of the opinion that there will be an attraction , possibly more from a man becoz like grunt said, its in our nature...but weather we will act upon it depends on a lot of things...<br /><br />@santhosh : all relationships ends up having too much expectations..me? i have lots of female friends... i fell in love with all of them but left the feeling alone without acting upon it, it has morphed into a great relationships...so i guess its possible but i do not take credit for it becoz i think the women involved had more to keeping things in perspective...but denying that and pretention of 'just friends ' seems a like a lil ostrich approach..tyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-10501374081417341662011-08-24T02:40:15.418-07:002011-08-24T02:40:15.418-07:00Man and woman can be friends, but they can not rem...Man and woman can be friends, but they can not remain friends. It's hard to finish as friends. Either they will expect more in the relationship or they will be get bored of the "Just Friendship" tag.<br /><br />There will be comparisons with other, expectation would remain high for being 100% faithful Sometimes, some women (per% is high) wish to keep their friends intact. Some men are sick of being jealous, where as men doubts their friends very quickly.<br /><br />Answer to the raised question is "It depends on individuals", figuring out conclusion would be tough, it's easy to check life, Go get in friendship of women and Life will teach you.Santosh Kumarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08093068150076949621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-69943980501709223022011-08-20T01:52:16.748-07:002011-08-20T01:52:16.748-07:00perspective. match stick and cotton if not ignited...perspective. match stick and cotton if not ignited can be friends.rmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08163377829684831365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-63605130092062338802011-08-19T20:44:47.611-07:002011-08-19T20:44:47.611-07:00@grunt : i guess u havent been in a 'like a br...@grunt : i guess u havent been in a 'like a brother to me' relationship...thats like putting salt into an inflicted wound..<br /><br />@kathy : now i am curious...how? ... please feel free to elaborate..dont let me stop you from going into details...<br /><br />@sonia : u think?! :)tyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-15793348675055605622011-08-19T10:21:48.111-07:002011-08-19T10:21:48.111-07:00I have a bestest (can that be a word?) friend sinc...I have a bestest (can that be a word?) friend since childhood and contrary to predictions by many many gossipy aunties that we would hook up, we were and are still just friends....Maybe the fact that he is gay has to do something with it? :)Soniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18027779775611950140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-60245620407794700482011-08-19T04:33:13.228-07:002011-08-19T04:33:13.228-07:00blue lagoon stole my innocence.blue lagoon stole my innocence.Kathyhttp://imkathy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-67077491409733599832011-08-10T00:08:19.473-07:002011-08-10T00:08:19.473-07:00@ Grunt
+1000000@ Grunt<br /><br />+1000000xyzandmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349572429957382797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-78856578296245065522011-08-09T20:17:32.282-07:002011-08-09T20:17:32.282-07:00Well, most hetero guys have that built-in drive to...Well, most hetero guys have that built-in drive to procreate, so it is going to get in the way eventually. That is, like you said, unless you really can't get past her looks. I just resent girls trying to turn you into their "gay" friend when you are not gay. I don't mean they try to set you up with guys and shit. But they try to lay the same emotional crap from another relationship or love on you, almost to insult you--like you don't have any attraction at all. When girls do this to their straight guy friends it bores them and if you are going to bore your straight guy friend you should at least give him a blow job to compensate.The Grunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03845796879498225434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-83020362453794579512011-08-05T01:14:13.548-07:002011-08-05T01:14:13.548-07:00@Dog : Hush you lil pup! This is public forum and ...@Dog : Hush you lil pup! This is public forum and now i will have to clear the air about the sleeping together bit. Image, man, Image. But you will have to admit that I did keep my hands and other things off you. We were just friends. <br /><br />Now the friend with benefits part :) .. considering that almost every girl friends of mine tied a rakhi and made me a spontaneous brother, i am not in a position to elaborate on that but, hey, please dont let that stop you....please do go on and let me know those friends of yours...lets destroys some families out there :) <br /><br />i knew u wud side mads...its only because she feeds you...traitor.<br /><br />@harini :havent met a single undesirable woman...maybe you got some good friends.<br /><br />Dog is actually a friend of mine...one of the very few I have..he is now out to defame me...do not believe him...i did sleep with him, but not 'with' him...i swear on the kamasutra.<br /><br />@jules : I thought we were already friends :) ... but trust me , that's no guarantee for anything...i of all the people have no handle on anything...tyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-15139781620524741262011-08-04T21:47:45.623-07:002011-08-04T21:47:45.623-07:00I have tried to be just friends with so many men. ...I have tried to be just friends with so many men. It might be next to impossible. I've tried it time and time again. They always speak up and confess their feelings and then it all just gets fucked up. Even if i'm in a committed relationship, they still fuck things up. "I've loved you for so long". Bah. I just want to be your friend means just that. Ok? Lust after me if you need to, but seriously boys.. keep it to yo damn selves!<br /><br />Wanna be friends, Tys? You seem to have a handle on the situation.Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02465092770336000846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-69302357433266077482011-08-04T19:46:14.326-07:002011-08-04T19:46:14.326-07:00Lol I loved this post!!
I died laughing at "...Lol I loved this post!!<br /><br />I died laughing at "I doubt I will ever sleep with Dog"<br /><br />But the best friends I have are guys. And yes my feelings for them have degrees :P<br />But then again, we are always 'just friends' cos I'm just plain undesirable.♪♪Happy Go Lucky♪♪https://www.blogger.com/profile/01269515158933060231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-75879901206221427962011-08-04T05:39:23.205-07:002011-08-04T05:39:23.205-07:00"I guess that's true of any friendship, i..."I guess that's true of any friendship, irrespective of gender but I doubt I will ever sleep with Dog".<br /><br />As the Dog in question, I beg to have my 2 barks worth in this discussion.<br /><br />Firt of all Tys, we have slept together...many times...and I dont want to hide the fact that I really enjoyed it. Havent slept so soundly since the mid 90s.<br /><br />Secondly, sorry to desert you on this soapbox, but I am with Madhu on this one.<br /><br />Lastly, you seem to have totally ignored the "Friends with Benefits" arrangement.<br /><br />Have I given you enough material for your next post? :-)Dognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-36797905671741561622011-08-02T21:29:41.435-07:002011-08-02T21:29:41.435-07:00@madhu : ah, dismissing it all with a word i didnt...@madhu : ah, dismissing it all with a word i didnt understand...i had to look it up...but i still maintain what i said...havent seen a single one wherein these criterias are not met and still remained just friends..open minded or not...thing is , i believe that its easier for a woman but most men tend to fall in love with any show of affection...we are like pups...we are so adorable that way..<br /><br />what the hell is archaic anyway? sounded like something archie suffered from...see? even he is in love with his friends...all the friends in friends ultimately fell in love with each other at some point or the other...rules babe rules..tyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-85002146393167054182011-08-02T20:40:54.625-07:002011-08-02T20:40:54.625-07:00Overrated discussion! One has friendships with peo...Overrated discussion! One has friendships with people - maybe like minded ones but even that is not a criteria. Just the thought process is archaic Tys. Enough said.Madhunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-28649267579224808162011-08-02T11:47:08.665-07:002011-08-02T11:47:08.665-07:00@poori : iam sorry to break the bubble but i still...@poori : iam sorry to break the bubble but i still feel that a man and a woman just friend relation is based on conditions..under certain conditions it will work without crossing any limits where it becomes uncomfortable for both parties to maintain it as just friend...<br /><br />but i really dont think it shud make u question the friendships that u have or will make in the future...in the end its all upto u..i think a man and woman makes great friends..and its probably becoz of the differences and the chemistry..tyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-77835852635208346602011-08-01T12:30:21.469-07:002011-08-01T12:30:21.469-07:00You most definitely can be the 'just friends&#...You most definitely can be the 'just friends' with a guy. But this is what I think. In the 12 years of our marriage, Ive never been able to convince my husband that this is possible. Now you're kinda saying it too... So as usual the male mind dances to a different tune altogether :-) <br /><br />I have the best girlfriends on earth & their friendship has seen me through thick & thin, but I personally feel most at home with the guys..the guys are whom I forge the best friendships with & the deepest 'pure-friendship,-even-bordering-on-brother-sister (really & truly.)' bonds with. <br /><br />Okay. Now Ive got to honestly examine myself to see if its because Im in a committed & happy relationship, or because my head is wired like a guy's, which means (in the words of my Mom) I really have no 'clutch & brake'. Guys are more accepting of a lack of clutch & brake you know...hmm.Poornimanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-27645703785515018622011-08-01T06:25:37.836-07:002011-08-01T06:25:37.836-07:00@diyadear: but i think u can be married and still ...@diyadear: but i think u can be married and still have male friends..if u can send the correct dont cross the line vibes u will be fine..trust me , we do not like rejections or to look like a fool..so we will toe the linetyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-29078317347151785952011-08-01T06:11:24.818-07:002011-08-01T06:11:24.818-07:00@vidya : I did not say that a man and woman cannot...@vidya : I did not say that a man and woman cannot be just friends. I said they can be, provided the said criteria are met. <br /><br />@hipgrandma: then the criteria which was listed is being maintained. Any friendship that falls outside the criteria will evolve into more than just friendship...either one sided or with mutual consenttyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-90843309413032472202011-08-01T00:42:43.452-07:002011-08-01T00:42:43.452-07:00oh i soo agree with u tys.. Having experienced n n...oh i soo agree with u tys.. Having experienced n no of my best buddies ending up proposing me :(.and it somehow leaves an after taste in your mouth sp getting back to friendship dosnt go that smooth always.. im one of those people who now have a big void of male "just friends" in life.. <br />Well some disadvantages of being a married, cool girl eh ?;)diyadearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16816754017778674137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-6484886171590574502011-07-31T07:04:01.692-07:002011-07-31T07:04:01.692-07:00I've studied in a co-ed school and vouch for t...I've studied in a co-ed school and vouch for the fact that boys can be great friends and JUST friends. I don't remember having the slightest crush for any of them and I am sure it was the same with them. Don't tell me that things were different 45 years ago. I think when one interacts with the opposite sex on a daily basis they become the most reliable 'just' friends. When I did my M. Sc. I was married and had three children. So I was 'didi' to my class mates But the eligible ones in the class were also just friends.<br /><br />It is not that difficult or impossible.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-29531741999655840002011-07-31T02:49:18.937-07:002011-07-31T02:49:18.937-07:00*lol* Tys, you're incorrigible... I don't ...*lol* Tys, you're incorrigible... I don't think I had any male friends in college (or even maybe later) who were in love with me...I guess I remained just friends.. but I am also brilliant at missing hints/signals.. Arun can vouch for this. But friendship between the sexes can be uncomplicated.Vidyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09983815036723926607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-17933100044461523682011-07-31T02:30:31.846-07:002011-07-31T02:30:31.846-07:00Wow! Someone finally agreed!
Also, interestingly e...Wow! Someone finally agreed!<br />Also, interestingly enough, there are no exceptions to this instinctive behavior. Every man knowingly or unknowingly.. consciously or subconsciously does think lustfully or in more tender words.. is attracted to another female.<br /><br />I think Dr. Helen Fisher, a renowned Anthropologist has explained the "whys and why nots" of this behavior in her books.<br /><br />Heres a modified version of a conversation between Sheldon and Leonerd from The Big Bang Theory:<br /><br />*Leonerd is lifting their hot neighbor's furniture*<br />Sheldon: Are you expecting to have coitus with her?<br />Leonerd: Men do things for women without expecting sex.<br />Sheldon: Those would be the men who just had sex.xyzandmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349572429957382797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3316680911353784820.post-16089547188885043162011-07-31T02:08:19.957-07:002011-07-31T02:08:19.957-07:00@xyzandme: u know something? i had a similar exper...@xyzandme: u know something? i had a similar experience long ago when i had this friend in college...a great friend..we have even slept in the same bed with nothing happening...the thought didnt occur..it was only after she died that i look back at it with a touch of romance...but at that time, i know in my heart there was no expectations , only an acceptance..<br /><br />as a man, (iam not sure if its the same for women) , most of the time, we do tend to get attracted to attractive friends...maybe its a instinctive conquest kinda thing...something to accomplish and then continue...<br /><br />but iam sure there are exceptions<br /><br />@vidya : u r such a great sport! one more question...how many of ur male friends fell in love with u?...is Ponnanna a rarity?<br /><br />@ponnana: thanks for ur input..like i mentioned earlier, i do have a cousin who seem to have had such a friendship...so i guess it can happen...but how often? did u ever have a woman friend which turned into more than just friends not necessarily thru actions but even in thoughts...<br />( i have a dirty feeling u guys will never invite me home now:) )tyshttp://tysonice.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com