Thursday, March 22, 2012

Sex and other such nonsense

Aah the pleasure of coming back here and seeing all those empty chairs.

Standing on this platform speaking to an empty void seems like the time I shouted 'I can’t hear you' from the viewing platform in Ponmudi to hear the echo shout back at me, repeatedly, my words, until it faded like dispersed fog. I was 12.

Nothing has changed.

I still have to talk to hear myself.

And you, my silent listener is the choiceful victim, led here by your fingers and hopefully staying here for your own reasons.

What shall we talk about today?

Let’s talk about sex.

Really. Let us truly talk about it.

Considering that I haven’t been having it for a very long time, you might understand and perhaps will not be harsh in your judgment of me, for bringing up a subject that for some, will be uncomfortable.

We will not lose focus and study why something that your parents did which resulted in you, is an embarrassing topic. We will not bother with why seeing naked people inserting, penetrating, sweating, licking, holding, which in a single beautifully descriptive word is called fucking, makes some cringe, while the same will watch with no discomfort the killing, maiming or other gores acts we commit to each other.

We will not bother with all that. We all have our reasons. So we will respect that and leave that alone.

We will not discuss what arouses us.

Is it what we see, or what we hear or what we read and what we taste? , or is it what they wear, or what they represent or what they do?

We will not go into all that. It happens. We do get aroused.

We will not discuss rape. Why some of us are uncomfortable with discussing it. Why we attach shame to an act where the victim gets raped twice. First by the rapist and then by the society.

Fuck all that.

We can discuss about masturbation, if that’s okay with you. But I guess you won’t. Act of self pleasure that can, if used correctly, is the remedy for sexual impulses.

Feel ridiculously horny?

Wank off. Go on.

Its way better than trying to seduce your secretary or your boss or your ex flame or your husbands best friend or forcing yourself on your maid or paying for an hour of tryst with a stranger. It’s more economical and less stressful.

And consider the range. For a person who likes multiple partners in real flesh, is still limited by the number of actual people who will respond to his or her needs. But for a well self trained masturbator, the world is his /her range. Everyone is available. All possibilities exist for you.

Wanna do some one? Anyone? This is your solution. You do hold the world in your hands.


After which you are requested to wash your hand and face the world with that out of your mind.

But we will not talk about it. I can see your discomfort. I can see the nervous giggle. I can see you looking over your shoulder to see if anyone can see what you are reading. I can see you calling your friend over to read it with you and laugh, so that in the pecking order of peer group all things that are shared are fine.


My friend, philosophies that to drink milk one need not buy a cow, but merely go to the supermarket and take your pick.

Demand and supply.

That’s about it. We need not go there. We can get academic about it. We can, if you want, talk passionately about the violent crimes that revolve around it. We can get our pulses racing about issues like human trafficking, the abuses, children sold into it. We can go on. But we won’t.

Here we will stick to sex. The kind that involves feelings, that happens between consenting people. The one that involves some amount of foreplay, then the act and possibly some post coital rituals like a cuddle or a smoke or some innane conversation.

You will now ask me what about orgies, what about teenage sex, what about voyeurism, porn, ménage a trios, wife swapping, affairs, etc.

You might even ask me if our discussion will involve more than just sex, will we talk about tools. Handcuffs, whips, lubes, costumes, chocolate syrup....

I say why not. Yes there is consent. That’s the sex we are planning to talk about.

Now what is it we were talking about?

Ah, sex.

There isn’t much we can talk about it when its stripped off all its clothes, is there?

Much like an onion.

Like the saying goes: Just do it.


Anonymous said...

maybe a discussion on whether love and sex coexist? is it mandatory to coexist should one culminate in another... like religion and god...

tys said...

i dont know, anon.

i do know that love and sex can stand alone...apart from each need not culminate in the other...

i defintely am not in a position to say that sex with love or the other way round is the best, because thats what i like..that would be a very stupid statement for me to make...

it can exist without the other.

the morals , the judgements, the laws, the outlook are all the garbs we have given it...

one is a natural is a physical and nature's requirement...its a built in doesnt require comes naturally.

the other seems to be more is to some extent is definetly over rated but i cant deny its existence...if that too is just the result of a chemical reaction within ourself to ensure an action, is something iam unable to say with certainity...

i feel love is , like most emotions is an after is realized only in retrospection..fear, anger and lust are manifest physically...but the others are more or less by products..a mothers protectiveness to her child is instinct...we give it terms..similarly a persons possessiveness of another is termed as love...we color things for justification...

i dont know..

but i do know that sex and love can exist without the other...just like religion and god.

The Grunt said...

I grew up in a culture that told me that if I masturbated it would turn me gay. I also believed clear up until I was twelve that my mom and dad only had sex seven times (five kids and two miscarriages). I was also told (from my friend's father) that people who masturbated should be castrated. Boy, oh boy! It was such a well-adjusted and wholesome environment to mature sexually in. I literally believed that Satan had my eternal soul because of the times I looked at porno, jerked off, and engaged in "heavy petting" with the neighbor girl. It's funny, because now that I don't believe I'm going to hell, I get no action.

It's no wonder I live in an area with the highest suicide rate for teens and adolescents.

tys said...

grunt, i could never figure out for the life of me, why people tend to look at masturbation as some kind of terrible act...i mean more than 90% do it, you would expect people to get a grip on things by now...

but lets prod the matter a little it the fear that once the guilt is removed from it, people will engage in it continuously without stop..i doubt it but a study shows that rats given a choice of pushing a button which was connected to an electrode in their brains which gave them orgasm tend to keep pushing that button untill they starve to death...which brings me to the moral of that experiment...orgasms are far better than food and may be the answer to dieting...

Jules said...

Liked your post. The only thing I was shocked about is the statement where you said we have to wash our hands after masturbation. That's just a bummer. I like to have a lingering scent for my own pleasure within easy access.. and possibly for getting away with having my sex smell on me when I then leave my house and walk amongst those not in the know, wondering if they can smell it or not and if it attracts them or not. Masturbation as an unknowing social experiment. There's a topic.

tys said...

jules, i have a feeling that comment by itself would have send some to a tryst with madam thumb and her 4 daughters.

i guess this is what should be really called the scent of a woman.

Sanket Kambli said...

this is heavy

Anonymous said...

Don't do it you will go blind. I now wear ++ glasses, It's true. :)

Why the hell in name of god did you buy the cow? don't tell me you did't, because you know you did, cos I also did the same.